These are some verses that have helped me tremendously over the years:

1 Peter 2:20 For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.
21 For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:
22 Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth:
23 Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously:

~Gina

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George S. Patton

Based on the info you provided, you have done all you can do. Just continue to be gracious and kind. The truth will reveal itself with the other family members. If you receive further bitter e mails, I would respond with one brief, gracious sentence letting them know that you received the e mail, but don't continue to try to defend yourself and apologize. Sounds like they will keep coming up with new things to accuse you or hurt you with. I have dealt with family members like this before. Just be sure you are right with the Lord in your responses and don't worry about them. I have learned that there are some people that you simply have to love from a distance.

I think what you just said here in bold is so huge to this problem you're having. As women we grow so accustomed to fixing everything that we forget that sometimes we simply can't. So relax, Max.

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'Butt Kicking Women' is not responsible for lost or stolen egos.

I suppose I'd feel differently if this is concerning family. If it's friends of mine, I would do what I could, then let it go.

If it's family, I would continue to try to mend fences as long as they are worth mending. There are some family members with whom I would not strain to restore a relationship. Others, I would walk on hot coals to restore.

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All things presented in the above message are MHO. Thus, even though they probably are right, you have the right to respectfully disagree with me.

tamora, I have walked in your shoes...................You have done all you can do they have issues they have to work out. Give them time and pray daily for them.

Tamora,
I apologize if my posts sounded so "short"...I was kind of in a hurry when I was posting. Sometimes, you do all you could do and things will just remain "UNfixed" and the Lord uses those things still to perfect not the offending party...but to perfect those have not offended. Sometimes we desire for things to be fixed because it makes us feel uncomfortable to leave them that way, and I can totally understand that. But, the Lord uses those things <if we let Him> to perfect us, and to teach us some things. If you stop and think, most of our growth takes place during very ICKY and HURTING situations. Just a couple more verses:
James 1:3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.
4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
Hope this helps and wishing you the best!
~Gina

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Battle is the most magnificent competition in which a human being can indulge. It brings out all that is best; it removes all that is base. All men are afraid in battle. The coward is the one who lets his fear overcome his sense of duty. Duty is the essence of manhood.
George S. Patton