"You allowed youself to get raped" "A victim is only someone who is surprised"

[christundivided]

Here is my other cheek Jeri. Smit that to.

I hate what happened to you but what you are looking for here? How is this helping anything?

[WhyEvenBother]

"Originally Posted by jeri fletcher View Post
She was SO helped, that she returned to her home, and allowed her abuser to continue raping her, and her church to spank her at age twenty."

Another forum twit. Your "helpers" at HellHole "helped" you right back into an abusive situation, rather than finding another solution, another foster home, another family who would protect you and love you like something precious, not like a living blow up doll.

Jeri's point is that you weren't trained to deal with and avoid further abuse. You were placed right back into a situation where a very compliant child/teenager such as yourself would be attacked again.

You may have learned how to plant beans and iron teatowels, but you weren't equipped to protect yourself.

Sad. Sad. Sad.

[ghfcpennington]

Jeri's point is that you weren't trained to deal with and avoid further abuse. .

So no one is ever raped. They all allow it because they weren't trained.,

You people that believe things like that are just as bad as the preachers who blamed me.

"After I went to the law about my father and had him arrested. The pastor of the church pulled me in his office said that it had to be my fault! I was the guilty one to allow him to do this to me. He did not ask me for what he did to me. Using car fluid in a mask to paralyze me, beating me, cutting my moms breaks, putting stuff in her tea to make her sick, telling me one more spoonful will kill her. Instead he made me stand before the church tell them my sin with my father."

Jeri Fletcher says I allowed myself to continue to be raped.

[jeri fletcher]

Like I said, my victims rehab center would teach karate.
and...how to pull a knife!

[ghfcpennington]

I hate what happened to you but what you are looking for here? How is this helping anything?

It doesn't have to help anything except to let other people know what people here believe about rape, that victims "allow themselves to continue to be raped." I almost wished I didn't know what Jeri Fletcher believed but it might help someone else to know what the thoughts are here.

[ghfcpennington]

I hate what happened to you but what you are looking for here? How is this helping anything?

Thank you for a reasonable comments.

[GinaC]

I just want to say that I'm sorry for everything you have gone through.
Gina

It was said about me:



Then it was said to me:



I was 18 years old when I went back to that home. I had been in foster homes and a group home since I was 3 days old. I was abused at every place. I never had a real family. When I turned 18 I left Hephzibah House and went back to the home I got adopted at age 11 by my Sunday school teacher and her husband who was a deacon of the church, principal of the Christian school. (The very first night in my adoption home he sexually raped me. He told me that this is what I was suppose to do, if I was going to be a good daughter. I had been rapped since I was five years old. I did not know having sex with your father was wrong.) So go ahead and say I allowed myself to get abused and raped and beaten and threaten.

When I stand before God one day I don’t to waste my life complaining about all the evil people did to me, when God has sacrificed the ultimate for me. I love God not because of so those so called claimed Christians I have a personal walk with Him, my trust in him is not based on “so called Christians” and what they did to me they will answer for what they did to me when they meet Jesus. Right now here on this earth I want to bring honor and glory to Him and walk in His light not as just a label of “Christian” but someone who loves Jesus.

I hope and pray that none of you ever get abused and raped. And if you do, don't talk about it around certain people at the FFF because they will say to someone else that you allowed it.

[NoComment]

So no one is every raped. They all aloow it because they weren't traind.,

You people that believe things like that are just as bad as the preachers who blamed me.

"After I went to the law about my father and had him arrested. The pastor of the church pulled me in his office said that it had to be my fault! I was the guilty one to allow him to do this to me. He did not ask me for what he did to me. Using car fluid in a mask to paralyze me, beating me, cutting my moms breaks, putting stuff in her tea to make her sick, telling me one more spoonful will kill her. Instead he made me stand before the church tell them my sin with my father."

Jeri Fletcher says I allowed myself to continue to be raped.

That is not what WEB said.

You were accused of being the guilty one. You were shipped out. You were punished by being forced to do drudgery because idle hands are the Devil's playthings.

You were then sent back into the very same situation knowing how to pull weeds and make beds and clean floors. You were never taught how to stand up against that wrong that was done.

You were 18. You should not have gone back there. Your rapist was still alive and well; you were still vulnerable. You felt you had no where else to go but home? Probably. Your rapist was still a predator.

You were set up. You were not helped.

[Greaves]

That is not what WEB said.

You were accused of being the guilty one. You were shipped out. You were punished by being forced to do drudgery because idle hands are the Devil's playthings.

You were then sent back into the very same situation knowing how to pull weeds and make beds and clean floors. You were never taught how to stand up against that wrong that was done.

You were 18. You should not have gone back there. Your rapist was still alive and well; you were still vulnerable. You felt you had no where else to go but home? Probably. Your rapist was still a predator.

You were set up. You were not helped.

[christundivided]

It doesn't have to help anything elcept to let other people know what people here believe about rape, that victims "allow themselves to continue to be raped." I almost wished I didn't know what Jeri Fletcher believed but it might help spmeopne else to know what the thoughts are here.

I can see your point.

My wife was molested. She was made to feel like see did something wrong and was the problem. She is a totally different person now that she doesn't live with other peoples opinion of things. I can see how people living in such an environment believe they have to always be that way. Especially if they don't think they have any options left. There is always an option, yet people don't often understand this. I would never blame someone for bringing the situation upon themselves. Such a role reversal is sickening .

I don't know all the history of your situation but there comes a time to drop it and never embrace it again.