I was just wondering why so many christian women are so unfriendly to single women when they come to church. The reason i asked is because the church i go to in California the women are unfriendly even if they are single to.
Last edited by innerlove94; 03-23-2007 at 10:30 AM.
God is not on your back. He is on your side.-- John Bishop
the same reason so many single women are unfriendly to married women... Predominantly, jealousy and they don't see that they have much in common, imho.
however, I agree that is hard to be single in the average IFB church. I assume it is because of the minority status and truthfully people don't know what you do. I have had people what I do with all my time? (work full time, in church a lot, visit, sunday school, plus a home to care for, grocery shopping, oh wait.. the same things you do, only I am alone), where do I spend all my money?, etc.
I think that as more and more people are waiting to get married and divorce is more common among Christians that singles are an open field of people that need to be loved and reached. It is also a group that needs a place to serve and find a way to reach others and be a blessing to others.
Threat of non-comittment on single person life. Man has wife, kids, responsibilities. Single women have work, no kids, no commitment.
There are also many married women I am very leary of. Unhappy marriages, kids, responsibilites, no money! Had a friend who's wife called my husband one day to meet him at the church, she wanted to talk. My husband had the smarts enough to tell her absolutely not and called me to tell me about it. We were very aware that they were having marital problems. A few months later her husband found her with another married man and soon after they divorced. Hadn't seen her in several years. My husband saw her a few weeks ago and he avoided her like the plague!
I was single until the age of 39. In my case, I worked in Chicago and then was very involved in the nursery and only knew the husbands associated with their kids. I didn't let myself even think about getting involved with any married man.
I'm just a sinner, saved by Grace!
Back to topic. They aren't. I don't buy the "theiy're worried you'll steal their man" bologna. But they have less in common...birds of a feather flock together....
Same reasons moms of kids tend to chat more with other moms with kids (and therefore the same concerns).
Yes, I am ignoring you...
I think that so many christian women are so unfriendly is because I think that they feel that they have to compete with these other women. which is stupid
Leela: "I usually try to keep my sadness pent up inside,
where it can fester quietly as a mental illness."