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    Default Porn a valid reason for divorce?

    This morning we woke up to hear screaming at our next door neighbors so I checked it out. She was going off like a banchi so I took their kids, 4 & 2 1/2 over here. My Dad is playing with them, my wife is making breakfast. I have to go to work but they are still so shook up, you can tell. Luckily Dad is here now so it's a little better.

    In a nutshell, he has been viewing porn about 2 hrs per night for about a month. She found a dirty magazine in between the mattress. he's a fabulous father which generally by default, means a good husband which is all i've ever seen. She seemed like an ok mom too but who knows what really goes on behind closed doors. But I eavesedrop on them by the fence sometimes, can't be too bad I figure

    Dad is a good provider, works 9-5 M-F comes home every day right after work. Clean, fit, personable. I have no idea what the hubbub is, why she doesn't just ask him to stop it and of course he will as most men do. Instead she is filing for divorce Monday morning, and he believes her. She watches Soap Operas on TV in front of her kids which is worse sin than what he is doing. At least he doesn't expose the kids to all of those strangers bedding each other. I once commented to her how bad that was for the kids, she kept on.
    Maybe abuse issues are a part of her past, that is all I can think of. They don't want to go home without their Dad, it is so sad. She is really hurting them, we may need to move them to another neighbors house.

    I told her she had no grounds for divorce as did my wife. I means she's been watching people bed one another on the Soap Opera. She says pornea the greek word allows her to divorce but if that were true in this day and age, 90% of people would be divorced. We know GOD hates divorce. Anyhow if you have any verses, I'll check in in between work to place them on her door. Hopefully she will be in less pain by then

    Thanks alot

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    Soaps is porn for women. They are both wrong.

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    Default sure it is!

    I'd divorce over porn if he didn't confess and repent of it.
    and we're talking lost folks? Yes, porn -especially since he's not going to repent of it- is grounds for divorce.
    Jesus said he's comitted adultery with all those women. And the wife understands that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Revived View Post
    Soaps is porn for women. They are both wrong.
    Is it really?
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    Quote Originally Posted by jeri fletcher View Post
    Is it really?
    I think so. From what I remember, the actors in soaps connive, cuckold, and don't work for a living.

    But please, let me add, "talk shows" are a norm as well with the same audience. That medium even more mind polluting.

    Last edited by Revived; 05-22-2010 at 11:13 AM.

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    TMI!!!!!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mike View Post

    I told her she had no grounds for divorce as did my wife. I means she's been watching people bed one another on the Soap Opera. She says pornea the greek word allows her to divorce but if that were true in this day and age, 90% of people would be divorced. We know GOD hates divorce. Anyhow if you have any verses, I'll check in in between work to place them on her door. Hopefully she will be in less pain by then

    Thanks alot
    Hi Mike. It's a very difficult situation. You and your wife are correct that she shouldn't divorce. It sounds like she has been trying to find an excuse for divorce if she is acting this quickly. God does hat divorce. Jesus wasn't giving a reason for divorce. He only said that you wouldn't be causing the wife to commit adultery if she already was committing adultery. She has been doing the very same sin so that is another reason why it is very likely she has been wanting to divorce but was waiting for a good reason to tell her husband. She is likely one of those people that doesn't want to tell her husband she wants to leave just because she doesn't like him. She wants to be able to put the blame on him and make her look better.

    Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not excusing what the husband is doing. He should repent of his sin just as she needs to. That's why their marriage is about to divorce. She should ask him to stop viewing the porn and work on their marriage.

    Also, you made a good point about 90%. In would move that up to near 100% because there is not a man on earth that hasn't lusted at some point. Jesus said that lust was the sin of adultery. So if Jesus was really giving people an excuse for divorce, then everybody could divorce because most have lusted at some point in their lives.
    II Corinthians 1:20 ESV "For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why it is through him that we utter our Amen to God for his glory."

    Jude 24-25 ESV "Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen."

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayneR View Post
    While soaps have NO value and are full of sinful topics, to compare them to pornography is silly.

    Surely they both ought not to have a place in our society, but they are not comparable. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]
    Actually they are the same thing. I removed some in the quote that wasn't really appropriate for repeating. The sin of porn is lust. Both soaps and porn have lust. They are the same thing. It's like romance novels for women. Men are more into sight(why they are more into porn) and women into emotions (soaps and romance novels). Still, it is the sin of lust.
    II Corinthians 1:20 ESV "For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why it is through him that we utter our Amen to God for his glory."

    Jude 24-25 ESV "Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen."

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    Sounds to me like she is looking for a reason to divorce. Unless this is an ongoing problem and this is the last straw for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ichabod View Post
    Sounds to me like she is looking for a reason to divorce. Unless this is an ongoing problem and this is the last straw for her.
    Yeah, she may have a boyfriend hidden some place.



 

 
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