Counseling a hurting man whose wife left him

[DrZaius]

I am trying to help someone who had his wife walk out on him.

No affairs, not abuse, I think its the fact that the man has children from a previous marriage that stays with them every other week. i know the wife is a sweet girl, know her personally.

The husband is grieving, sad-faced, depressed.

He has resigned to "praying for her" from now on. They are not separated yet, not legally.

What, outside of an affair and abuse, is there that a person might not be able to forgive the spouse for?

Just wondering... I mean, i'd have a hard time forgiving a cheating wife. What else could it be?

They have gone to a counselor.

Hard to see my friend like this. really is.

[jeri fletcher]

how do you know it's a matter of not forgiving?
maybe she finally realized his kids were more than she bargained for.

[DrZaius]

how do you know it's a matter of not forgiving?
maybe she finally realized his kids were more than she bargained for.

I am guessing. The kids are good kids, she and they get along. I think maybe she feels his attention is on the kids. Most divorced people have some guilt complex that makes them overreact and spoil the kids to death when they have custody of them.

A woman, i guess, will be sensitive to being loved, and maybe she dont feel it. She is a nice girl. The husband is a bit pre-occupied sometimes.

[robwill]

I would ask about their finances. In my experience, financial problems are the number one cause of divorces. Infidelity is often forgiven, believe it or not.

Many people are reluctant to talk about their finances. It just seems from the information given to you that something is missing from the picture.

[jeri fletcher]

I am guessing. The kids are good kids, she and they get along. I think maybe she feels his attention is on the kids. Most divorced people have some guilt complex that makes them overreact and spoil the kids to death when they have custody of them.
A woman, i guess, will be sensitive to being loved, and maybe she dont feel it. She is a nice girl. The husband is a bit pre-occupied sometimes.

well you sound like you're up on this kind of thing!
tell him to try to get her to go away for the wknd.... if it's not too late.
he should already have the tickets bought and show them to her personally. it works best that way.

[DrZaius]

well you sound like you're up on this kind of thing!
tell him to try to get her to go away for the wknd.... if it's not too late.
he should already have the tickets bought and show them to her personally. it works best that way.

To be honest, they split after a weeklong vacation, no fighting, they went to a counseling session a day after they arrived back from vacation, and after the session was over, the wife left, didnt call back or anything.

Hard to see a friend suffering like this.

[jeri fletcher]

To be honest, they split after a weeklong vacation, no fighting, they went to a counseling session a day after they arrived back from vacation, and after the session was over, the wife left, didnt call back or anything.

Hard to see a friend suffering like this.

that is bad.

praying!